Value

I’ve always liked people who are confident.

Confidence is something that everyone wants in somebody, because confidence by definition is “sureness”.

Confidence looks a lot like people who know their value.

    

I have been on this journey learning about relationships for a couple months now, and I am by no means walking in complete freedom in these things, but by the Grace of God I’m definitely closer than I was yesterday.

I had a conversation with a friend of mine a few days ago about him liking this girl, and I was sharing with him about how to let down his guard and show her love, but to not place his value in her hands.

Because of this rocky place I’ve been walking through, I’ve learned that my whole life I’ve placed my value in others hands and let them determine my value; how they can take some of it, or add to it.

It’s an absolutely horrible thing to do.

Value by definition is the regard that something is held to deserve; the importance, worth, or usefulness of something.

When we place our value in someone else’s hands, outside of Gods, we give them the “center” of us, we give them control over us. They can kick the chair out from under us, or they can add some books for us to stand on to get a little taller.

That is a very scary and unbalanced place to be, never knowing and always seeking for approval of people.

When you give people your value, you give them the right to determine your worth, and people cannot determine your worth because they have not paid the price for you. Only God can.

It’s hard, relearning to not place value in someone else’s hand, and to place it into God’s hand.

I think the reason it’s hard because we don’t know God very well.

But that’s the thing, that’s the part where we have to try; we can’t just half do it.

Getting to know whom God says He is, and who He says that we are is so rewarding.

Not only will we know who He is, but also because we know what He says about who we are, we can know how He values the people around us.

And then we will no longer be striving for approval, or affirmation.

But, we can fully be ourselves, all while resting in the approval of our Father.

And one of the hardest things to do, is to still value someone who has de-valued you for so long. But it doesn't de-value you to value them. Honestly, if value could be added to (which is can't, because God will always value you the same) it would make you more valuable. 

Its like that quote, "A flower does not compete to the flower next to it, it just blooms."

I think its time to just bloom without the fear of man taking away, or adding to.

Just bloom with the value of the Fathers love for you.